Baptist Health Lexington

Lexington, Kentucky

Debbie Mueller

Perinatal Bereavement Coordinator

When I meet someone and they ask what I do my reply of “I am a Perinatal Bereavement Coordinator and work with families who experience a miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth or newborn death.” they often reply, “That must be so hard, how can you do something so sad?”.  It is difficult to put into words why I have had the honor and privilege of serving heartbroken families for the last 26 years and that I feel I have been given so much more than I will ever be able to give back.

A perfect example of why I do what I do and those who inspire me every day is Keshia & Ahmad Alexander, their beautiful boys and their outreach ministry through Anchored Soul.  

In the fall of 2016 I feel God brought them into my life to be a source of great support and inspiration.  They have generously provided items of support for families who experience a perinatal loss such as gift baskets and bags with both practical and encouraging items to bring comfort but most importantly notes of support that help grieving moms and dads know they are not alone.

They have not only provided these tangible items for families but have also attended and assisted with our monthly support group meetings, annual Walk to Remember and Candlelight Memorial services and speaking on our bereavement staff training Parent’s Panel.  Anytime they are asked they jump right in to help with any tasks, all the while connecting with families fresh in their grief to help them feel a part of the service and assisting them in making connections with the group.

And last but most certainly not least many times they have shown their appreciation for the difficult task that healthcare providers are faced with every day when we are traveling the journey with families who have a loss or are caring for critically ill little ones.  The treats and goodies that they have surprised the staff with on several occasions provides a ray of sunshine that keeps us going on this very rewarding but often difficult path that we have chosen as our life’s work.